Dating Mistakes Nigerian Guys do make that Crashes Relationships

It seems so many guys are so confused on dating to an extent where they erroneously equate it with marriage! Dating is just a period where two persons who find themselves attracted to each other try to know themselves better; it could even happen in a way where either one of them is not 'too interested' in the other person but as time goes on, good attitude, genuine love and care, coupled with clear understanding shown by either the guy or the lady could make both of them 'click' for good.

On a serious note, some guys can actually go the extra mile by portraying some unnecessary and irrelevant attitude that can cause them emotional pains in return

Below are some common misconceptions guys have about dating which is not supposed to be a 'do-or-die' affair!!!

1) Policing a girl: Dating period shouldn't be a time for you to police a girl as if you work for the FBI! When a girl agrees to date you, it means she has interest in you and would like to know you better. It is not a period to show your skills in detective operations and start snooping around her, trying to know her every whereabout...how she eats, who she talks to, who she calls or who calls her. You might just end up selling yourself out as a desperate and jobless fellow who has nothing serious to attend to in life! Give yourself some self-worth, Inspector Idemudia!!!

2) Exercising ownership over her: This is one big misconception that most guys have! Remember you have not paid a dime on her...so why exercise ownership? Isn't it funny that as soon as she agrees to date you, you want her to cut off every raport she has with everyone? You erroneously think that when you claim ownership, it gives you a strong ground in her life! Wrong! You could even trigger hatred. Allow her to study you and other admirers to see who has the desired traits! This is far from her playing 'hard to get' because at this stage, she has already showed interest in you! A woman hardly respects a man who act as if his life is tied around her.

3) Imposing your personal policies on her: Again, you are not married to her. There is no need for you to impose your policies on her to accept. She has her own life to live and there is no signed certificate anywhere that she is your wife or she is going to be one in the nearest future. Even husbands are not suppose to impose policies on wives talk more of doing that at the dating stage!!! You might end up selling yourself out as an undesirable tyrant!!!

4) Taking the role of a husband financially: The dating period is not a time for you start catering for the financial responsibilities of a lady because you neither owe her any duty nor obligation to do that! It doesn't mean you should become mean as Caliban! You should show generosity to the one you are dating but don't make it seem as if you running to get to the finish line and at the same time, trying to carry somebody on your back all along. You sure know what that means It is difficult to stop when you have already started; it's better not to start what you cannot end. Never you use money to impress a woman you want to get serious with; instead, let her see the work or essence of the money in your life...then, she would'nt think of 'money' you'd have to spend but the 'success' you have been able to achieve. Don't forget, women love successful men and they are loyal to them and not just a money spender!!!