7 Types of Toxic People you Should Keep Out of Your Life

Think about the reason for your mental un-restlessness or the anxiety building up. When life throws in challenges at people, it is more important for us to hold our grounds and stay strong during these periods. But all of your mental balance depends on the kind of people that you surround yourself with. As Jim Rohn sums it up best, you become what you surround yourself with. Very much like the story of the spoilt apple kept in tow with a bunch of other fresh apples that we’ve been told our entire childhood, there are significant impacts on keeping some kinds of people close to you.

There are some people who are happy for your successes or progress and genuinely take an interest in your problems while there are the ones who are opportunistic and only stay close as long as they feel your need for their purpose. The importance of identifying the people around you and staying away from the commotion which will only mentally unstable you is immense. Intentionally or sometimes not, toxic people are the ones who drain you out mentally and emotionally to an extent where you revert to self-pitying and self-doubting.

Keep away from these 7 Toxic people in your life

How do you identify these class of people who make you feel miserable, which is sometimes distinct but not always? How do you steer clear of these toxic people in your life? Here are the 7 types of toxic people that you must try to keep away, at least during your down time, while you rejuvenate.

The Naysayers

Another word for the negative people. I’ve come across naysayers and from what I can tell, some of the times these people are just being realistic while others simply don’t want to see you succeed. Whatever may be the case, simply keep these naysayers out of your life no matter what. Negativity breeds self-doubt and self-loathing, which is never a healthy thing for your mind. While you may believe that it is the naysayers that make people go and achieve things and prove the naysayers wrong, not always are you needed to prove yourself to someone else.
If you believe in the beauty of your dreams and work for it, there is no need of these people to bring you down to earth. One way I deal with naysayers is I try to identify any potential loopholes and not the obvious ones that I fail to see in my ideas or beliefs. But it sometimes sticks behind the back of your brain and it becomes harder to ignore the negativity that you received in the past for your ideas or thoughts. One simple way to keep the naysayers keep out of your life is to not let them know what you’re thinking or working on until you get it done unless of course it is your boss! Remember the saying, “Work hard in silence, let success speak for itself.”

The False Positives

Not very much different than the naysayers, but probably more dangerous. The naysayers, at least, say what they mean directly to your face where the false positives resort to different means. These people are the ones who intentionally don’t want you to succeed and only heap false praises in your presence. They are the ones who are most likely to sulk in your success and they are the ones you must steer clear immediately once identified. The false positives will tell you how much they are happy for your new job, your new car or your new house but really deep inside, they loathe you and envious of you.
These are the people who wear their mask everywhere and they never mean what they say. These are also the people who happen to be some of the worst gossipers as they are more interested about others than themselves. No good will come from the false positives and their uncanny ability to composedly throw in negativity at others in a subtle fashion, easily make them worth keeping the distance.

The ones who disrupt your ‘Me’ time

Not as toxic as the two types of people mentioned above, but nonetheless, need to be taken care of. Most of the people need their alone time and no matter how extroverted, the mind needs some time for itself. This is what is commonly referred to as ‘Me time’. This is the time for yourself and you alone. No best friend or someone even very close gets to disrupt your ‘Me time’. Worst are the people who still revert back to purposely disturbing you during your ‘Me time’, even after you mentioning them to keep away.
I’ve heard extroverted people say that they do not need downtime or alone time to replenish and that they enjoy the company of people. While that may be fairly true, you do not get productive by simply having the company of people. If someone who is not working towards the same cause as yours attempts to disrupt your ‘Me time’, you simply need to steer clear of these kinds of people, at least temporarily. If you happen to be an introvert or someone who tends to be the most productive when left alone, this is something you can effortlessly relate to.

The Grouchy Moaners

Different from the naysayers and the false positives in a way entirely of their own. The grouchy moaners are the ones who complain a lot, about everything and everyone. They try to make themselves and those around them feel good by sugar-coating the situation and putting the blame onto the shoulders of others. Couldn’t get good grades? well, it was the professor’s fault. From the weather to the 40-hour workweek to the traffic and the Mondays, there is nothing that would stop these people!
Failure to take responsibility for their situations and circumstances in life is what makes these kinds of people toxic. Blaming their luck or others for their unfortunate situations in life is something you would come across very often when in the company of a grouchy moaner. Long company of these people will turn you into a similar complainer and soon you will stop taking responsibility of your actions. Steer clear of these grouchy moaners and take complete responsibility of your life into your hands.

The Judgemental

These are the people who will judge you and everyone for everything that you go and do. Do or don’t, the judgemental have a unique perspective angle which will make them see everyone in equally negative angles. Identifying these people is very easy as you can easily tell by the way they talk to you about others. If they are too judgemental of everyone else when around you, they might be doing the same thing to you when you’re not around.
People are often quick to jump to conclusions but that simply doesn’t make one judgemental. Severe and repeated criticism of everything that does not match up to their own tastes and beliefs is what makes one a judgemental. Someone different from themselves or their views is looked down upon by these people. Due to poor listening or due to being close-minded, their judgementalism is definitely something you would not want to look up to.

The Control freaks

While similar to the judgementalism in many ways, the control freaks are more proactive than their counterparts. These are perfectly closed-minded people who not only reject the ideas and thoughts of others but also make an attempt to make others disown their notions. These people are the ones who like the idea of manipulating others in the way they please to. They want to be in control of anything and everything that involves others. Simple lack of consideration of others, the control freaks are toxic both in business and in personal relationships.
The control freaks will always try to manipulate the thoughts and feelings of others and substitute it with their own feelings and beliefs of things. Advice from these people would be disastrous as they’ve thought about it from their own point of view and not yours. No one likes to be manipulated on every turn of life by someone who has little to no interest about you and it is time to steer clear of these people.

The Lazy souls

Although I’m highly appreciative of the lazy souls who always find a better way to do things, there are many different kinds of lazy. Every one of us wants to succeed and the stories of the Ellison’s, Gates and the Zuckerberg’s compel us to want to succeed even more. There is absolutely nothing wrong in wanting to succeed, but the lazy souls you need to steer clear are the ones who want to succeed but won’t make an effort in doing so.
The lazy souls you need to steer clear of are the ones who don’t believe in the beauty of their dreams and won’t work towards realizing them. These are the people who will always talk about ideas, but forget the very notion that it is people who make them come to life. They will effortlessly come up with great new ideas, but won’t work on them towards their realization. The laziness of this kind is contagious and something that you must keep yourselves away from.

Whatever you do, make sure that you try your best to keep these kinds of toxic people away from your life. It might happen that many people you know might fall into these categories, but you deserve the best for yourselves, don’t you?

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19 Thought Provoking Tips to Turn Your Bad Day Into Good

"Simplicity, clarity, singleness: These are the attributes that give our lives power and vividness and joy as they are also the marks of great art. They seem to be the purpose of God for his whole creation.” Richard Holloway

If you have errors, then you don’t need to change anything, you need to change is your thoughts and perception only. Just love simplifying your life. It makes you more active and less stressful life. It makes you calmer and happier.

19 Thought Provoking tips to turn your bad day into Great:

1. Stop being an entertainer: Stop trying to delight everyone. There will always be some persons around you that do not like you for some reason.
2. Take in the air: When depressed, indulge in a problem or the past or future in your sub-conscious mind, take a long breathe with your gut for a while and just emphasize on the breath going in and out. By doing like this, will make you calm your body down and you can be livelier in the present moment.
3. Never go for multiple things at a time: You will feel better if you have better results of your work. So, opt for one thing at a time. This goes for your offline & online life. Be present in the moment (Now) & you would notice how beautiful your life is. Usually, thoughts from the past or worry about future gives us anxiety & take our attention from what is in front of us. Always remember, you can’t change your past & you can’t control your future. All you have is now!
4. Jot it all down: Utilise your space in mind for other things than memorising what to do. And the brain is usually like a leaky pitcher. So jot down all your great concepts, visions and thoughts before they go disappeared somewhere. This is also useful when you are working on something & you get new ideas or remember things to do, just note it down.
5. Don’t like, don’t do: Life makes constant changes. If you are not enjoying doing something anymore, just get the kick off that work.
6. No one can be perfect: As a substitute, go for a good enough. Allow things to be done this way and then move ahead to the next task.
7. Prepare your bag for tomorrow: Pack your bag before sleeping. Then you don’t have to get worried about that in the morning and chances to forget something will be lessened.
8. Just get rid of the things you haven’t used: Have a look at your things and question yourself, either these have been used in the past one year or can be used in the future. If not, throw out or give it away to charity. Living a minimalistic life can do wonders for you. Don’t believe me? Check out the video I shared at the end.
9. Simplifying queries by asking yourself: Questions like “Who is the most important person in your life?” and “What can you do to tackle the present situation?”
10. Everything should be in ordered way: If there is haphazard at your place then it becomes tacky to keep your home ordered and remove unnecessary things. This will help you to provide inner stability as outer atmosphere affects your inner soul.
11. Make yourself busy in doing household work: We usually make limited servings of what we are about to eat. This reduces the time that you devote to cooking and you’ll have to do less work of cleaning up dishware in general. Apart from this, it’s good to have that part of the food to carry along with you at workplaces to save some bucks.
12. Guessing is a tough task: Reading brains are hard. So, as an alternative ask questions and talk. This will help you to lessen conflicts, misunderstandings, negativity and waste of time and energy.
13. The workspace should be compact: There are no distractions here. Just me, the computer and the water. There should be no distractions around your workplace. Just you, your equipment and the water.
14. Review your things daily: Check everything just once a day. Check your email inboxes, blog statistics, online earnings, Twitter and Facebook just once a day and associate all these checking into a small daily custom at the end of your work day. 
15. Be kind-hearted: Pick small daily deeds of kindness. Instead of doing unnecessary judgment and condemnation towards the individuals around you and towards yourself.
16. To exaggerate an insignificant matter out of all fractions: Don’t make mountains out of molehills. Stop thinking too much about something and constructing it up something big in your head.
17. Plan out your week: Utilize sometime on Monday morning to organise your week. Compose your plans for the week, organize your selected to-do list and get ready for the week. This will help you to have more transparency and minimise stress.
18. Eradicate complicated people: Occupied yourself with those people that help you to keep things simple and people that make you involve into overcomplicating things and producing drama, just ignore them. 
19. Performing meditation nurture mindfulness: We are all conscious about the benefits of physical exercise, which improved fitness, stress release, and an increased life expectancy, but we ignore the exercise we can do to our brain. In the short-term, meditation relaxes us. In the longer-term, it supports mindfulness, lifts our concentration levels and listening skills, helps us to cope up with stress, and simplifies our thought process, raising better decision-making and leadership skills.

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IJMB Registration Form is out for 2016/2017

We're pleased to announce the release of IJMB registration forms for 2016/2017.

The IJMB Programme is for candidates, who would like to start lectures immediately, and further gain admission into 200 Level in reputable institutions in the country.

You can also apply, while you wait for the outcome of JAMB or Admission.

You can now apply through Freshlink, which guarantees that you are in safe hands.

There are so many institutions/tutorial centres and websites claiming to provide such services, so we are stepping in to make sure you don't get into the wrong hands.

Application is currently on-going and it closes on 17th April, 2016.

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NDDC Postgraduate Foreign Scholarship 2016

As part of our Human Resource Development initiatives, NDDC is embarking on a Post-Graduate Foreign Scholarship Programme to equip Niger Deltans with relevant training and skills for effective participation in the Local Content programme of the Federal Government, as well as compete globally in various professional fields.

The Scheme is for suitably qualified applicants with relevant Bachelor's/Master's Degree(s) from recognized universities in the following professional disciplines:


1. Engineering
2. Medical Sciences (M.Sc. Public Health excluded)
3. Computer Science/Technology
4. Geology
5. Geosciences
6. Environmental Sciences
7. Agriculture
8. Environmental or Gas/Oil Law
9. Project Management

APPLICATION REQUIREMENTS

1. First Degree with minimum of 2 Class Lower Division for those wishing to undertake a Master's Degree programme and a good Master's Degree for PhD candidates from a recognized university.

2. Applicants must have gained admission for a Post Graduate Programme in any of the listed disciplines above, in a foreign University.

3. Applicants who have already enrolled in overseas' universities are NOT eligible to apply.

4. Guarantor's written consent of good conduct of the applicant from any of the following persons from the applicant's community/clan.
a. Member of National Assembly
b. Chairman of the LGA.
c. First class traditional ruler.
d. High Court Judge
5. Persons with evidence of cult membership or criminal record shall not be considered for the award.
6. Applicants must have completed the mandatory National Youth Service (NYSC).
7. Applicants must have a valid Admission Letter from a Foreign University.

MODE OF APPLICATION
1. Application must be made on-line at the Commission's website:
( www.nddc.gov.ng) with the following attachments:
i Recent passport photograph
ii Local Government identification letter.
iii Post Graduate (PG) admission letter from Overseas University.
iv Relevant Degrees from recognized University.
v N.Y.S.C Discharge Certificate.
2. Successfully completed application form will be assigned a registration number automatically.
3. Print the hard copy of the on-line generatedacknowledgement for ease of reference.
4. All shortlisted applicants will be posted on NDDC website, ( www.nddc.gov.ng )
5. For further enquiries please contact:
Director, Education Health and Social Services (NDDC)
Mobile: 08034534598; 084668158
E-mail:victor.seigha@nddc.gov.ng

DEADLINE:
All completed applications must be submitted on or before Friday, April 22, 2016.

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Delta State Poly 2nd Semester Resumption Date 2015/2016

This is to inform students of Delta State Polytechnic Ogwashiuku that the resumption date for 2nd semester, 2015/2016 has been slated.

Students are expected to resume April 11th, 2016.

Lectures are expected to resume immediately.

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The Ibarapa Polytechnic Declares A Mid Semester Break Following Protest By Students

The Ibarapa Polytechnic, Eruwa Formerly Known As The Polytechnic Ibadan (Adeseun Ogundoyin Campus), has embarked on an indefinite strike following protest by the students of the institution.

It was learnt that the students who were protesting the addition of a late registration fee by the management took to the streets but were silenced by the management who swung into action immediately to forestall a break down of law and order.

Most of the students were said to have been arrested by security agents.

Consequently the management released a notice declaring a mid-semester break and cancellation of the semester examination which was suppose to start on that same day.

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UNILORIN 2nd Batch Remedial Admission List 2015/2016 Released

This is to notify candidates who have applied for 2015/2016 Remedial programme of the University of Ilorin (UNILORIN) that the 2nd batch list of admitted students have been released.

Candidates are to check their admission status by visiting http://www.remedial.unilorin.edu.ng/

Click on Remedial Login link and login with your Remedial Application Number e.g. UIL/REM/2015/… and your password).

For registration procedure, visit UNILORIN Remedial Registration Details

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KWASU Post-UTME/DE 2016: Eligibility, Screening Date And Registration Details

This is to inform the public that the 2016/2017 Post-UTME/DE Screening of the Kwara State University has been announced.

ELIGIBILITY
a. those whose choice of institution (First or Second) is Kwara State University (KWASU), Malete; and
b. those interested in admission into KWASU but have not made it their choice.

In addition to all the requirements stated above, all applicants must know that final admission into the University is based on meeting the University’s and the Academic Programme’s cut off points in both UTME and POST-UTME examinations when they are set and also on the availability of spaces within the NUC approved admission quota for KWASU.

All candidates must have five (5) O’ Level credits in relevant subjects at not more than two sittings. Candidates awaiting O’Level results can also apply for the Post-UTME Screening Test but will not be considered for admission until their results are available.

SCREENING DETAILS

The screening/test is scheduled to hold as follows:

Date: Monday 16th May – Thursday 19th May, 2016.
Venue: University Auditorium, Malete
Time: Examination time will be scheduled on candidates’ registration print-outs.
Candidates are advised to adhere strictly to the time scheduled for their Post-UTME Screening/Test. They are also required to come along to the screening/test venue with unused scratch card(s) for their O’level results, and print-outs of their Post-UTME registration forms.

REGISTRATION FEES: Applicants are required to pay the sum of Three Thousand Naira (N3,000.00) only (i.e. Two Thousand Naira (N2,000.00) as Post-UTME fee and One Thousand Naira (N1,000.00) as administrative charge).

ONLINE REGISTRATION AND PAYMENT INSTRUCTIONS
►From KWASU undergraduate portal home page (http://www.kwasu.edu.ng/portal), click "POST-UTME CANDIDATES" menu.
►Click "Registration Form" link
►Enter your details in the spaces provided and click "Continue" button to generate the payment breakdown. NOTE that if you have already attempted to make payment, this section will notify you of the status of such payment.
►Check the payment details generated and click "Make Payment" button. Do not click the button twice.
►On the payment platform displayed, enter your card details and click the "Pay" button.
►Once your payment is successful, you will be directed to your registration portal where you can complete other stages.
►After completing the registration stages, a screening date will be scheduled for you. It is important to print your Post-UTME Registration Form and Payment receipt. You are to bring these documents to the screening center along with other important documents. NOTE that if you have successfully paid, and wish to continue your registration stages later, you can use the "Login" link under "POST-UTME CANDIDATES" menu to access your registration portal.


For further enquiries, please e-mail: admissions.officer@kwasu.edu.ng

CLOSING DATE FOR ONLINE REGISTRATION: Saturday 14th May, 2016.

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